Am I Supposed To…Nevermind, I’m No Obligated To.

Obligation: An act or course of action to which a person is morally or legally bound; a duty or commitment.

Morally? But who is to say it’s right or wrong?

The guilt and shame we attempt to place on others is directly due to our own insecurities. The search to validate our personal feelings is redundant, it now turns into OUR feelings.

It is no one’s obligation to;

*Confirm your feelings. You do not need reassurance and/or assistance to identify how and what you feel. (Respectfully excluding those who go to therapy for such concerns.) It is possible as well as fine to have different feelings/emotions simultaneously. YOU are all the confirmation you need & knownst no one is “obligated” to console you.

*Check up on you. No one is required to check up on you to ensure your well-being is healthy or protected. Yes, we hold those who do in fact check up on us in higher regards than those who don’t. Maybe due to the fact of us knowing no one is obligated to do so anyway.

*Make sure you are fed. If you are hungry, you make sure you eat. Married, in a relationship or not, it is no one’s responsibility to make sure you have a meal. Your spouse/partner may cook dinner every night due to the circumstances, and that is lovely and convenient. Know this is not their job and they were not born to cook and plate your food.

Never beg for support

Support you and your ventures/businesses. No one is required to help you build and push your brand/business to the TOP, and not one person has to share your work nor give you feedback about it. NOTE: Its just a nice thing to do.

Remind you of deadlines. High school has been over for many of us for some time now. As if you and those “reminders” graduated together. “Welcome to college, remember to do your work & assignments yourself, we will not remind you like you’re still in HS.”

……Haven’t had a reminder since; no one was obligated to!

That was just to name a few, and ANYTHING else that involves you personally and your well-being. It is entirely up to us to make sure our own business is taken care of, also to understand not one person has to support it. From friends/people on social media to the ones you hold closest, it is not required that they serve you in any way shape, or form.

(Laughs) Heck, you are not obligated to breathe, but you do so because you want to stay alive. Everything we do is a choice, sometimes it impacts others, and other times it solely affects us. Either way, it is a choice and we must make a decision. Over time, it’s these exact choices we made that labels your person.

Nice gestures, courtesy, things one would describe one who takes it upon themselves to have you in their favor for the given moment. Never to discredit those who didn’t act at that same moment — they were not obligated to. No malicious intent, some people aren’t as mindful as others, and many of us are preoccupied with our own priorities.

Let us be humane

It’s not ideal to run off and assume the disposition or the lack thereof of a person based on the gratitude that was not accredited to you when you felt you needed it most. It gives off the utmost insecurity and selfishness of an individual, one may be labeled as biased. There are more than 180 biases, we all are victims to some extent. DO NOT EXCLUDE YOURSELF.

In Closing

When there’s mental growth and you’ve laid out your priorities correctly, no offense will be taken in situations when the average person feels obligated.

-MMJ

Quote of the Auracle: “A promise is a comfort to a fool.”

-Gregory Isaacs

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