Because what starts with you will eventually spill over onto your children
Stalking and Harassment Are Not “Minor Flaws”
When someone has a history of stalking or harassment, it isn’t simply a mistake from their past — it’s a red flag of deeper behavioral patterns. Both stalking and harassment are rooted in control, intimidation, and the refusal to respect boundaries. They show up as obsessive checking, relentless contact, spreading rumors, threatening behavior, or refusing to take “no” as an answer. These are not quirks to overlook; they are warning signs of a dangerous dynamic that can escalate over time. Entering a relationship with someone who has shown these behaviors often means stepping into a cycle of fear, manipulation, and power imbalance.
How This Puts Children at Risk
When you’re a parent, the risks don’t stop with you. Someone who stalks and harasses a partner is likely to extend that behavior to children, either directly or indirectly. They may monitor, control, or intimidate your child in the same ways they targeted you. That could look like checking their phone, showing up at their school or activities, threatening people around them, or undermining their sense of independence. For children, this creates an environment of fear instead of security. Harassment teaches them that love is controlling, and stalking teaches them that privacy doesn’t exist — lessons that can create lifelong emotional wounds.
Choosing Safety Over Cycles of Harm
Healthy relationships build trust, safety, and respect; harassment and stalking destroy all three. Dating someone with this history puts you and your children at ongoing risk of emotional and physical harm. The best way to protect your peace and safeguard your children’s innocence is to refuse to normalize these patterns. No matter how charming the person may seem at times, the history of harassment and stalking is evidence of who they really are when challenged. Protecting yourself means protecting your family — and choosing love that uplifts instead of love that intimidates.
“Love should never come with surveillance, intimidation, or fear. Protect yourself. Protect your children. And never settle for a relationship that makes your family unsafe.”
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By Auracles by MJ
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